This is the way…

Yes, I know I’ve been pretty quiet lately. I’ve refused to blog because I’ve refused to write anything that would just depress the hell out of everyone. Let’s face it; my life hasn’t been a big ball o’ sunshine the past couple of weeks. However, I feel as though I am making a turn and that the road ahead is looking up. So, tonight I’m back on the blog front.
I still haven’t made much sense out of the recent events of my life and I’m coming to grips with the fact that Robert’s death will never make any sense – at least not in this lifetime. The only comfort that I have found is being able to look back over the past year and clearly see that even though we were all blind sighted by this tragedy, God wasn’t. He knew that Robert’s time with us was coming to a close and He had begun preparing us all for it long ago.
When my good friend Eric died suddenly in a car accident last February Robert and I really began to consider life insurance. Up until that point, we only had a small $20,000 policy and naively believed that this was more than sufficient. Well, guess what folks? The funeral and burial alone was $16,000. Yes, I know I’m over sharing some personal info here, but I truly believe it is important. PLEASE listen to me. If you don’t have life insurance, especially if you have kids, DO NOT WAIT another day to get yourself covered. Even though I’m not (by any means) sitting on a pile of money as a rich widow, I can’t imagine having to worry about getting food on the table for my kids while dealing with all of the ups and downs that his death has brought. Hopefully you will never need to use it, but trust me, life insurance is one of the most important, selfless and beneficial things you buy for your family.
The most comforting thing that I can see in hindsight is Robert’s growing relationship with a God who knew that Robert would be in His presence soon. Our dear friend Brenda wrote this in a memorial to Robert days after he was gone and I want to share it with you.

These last few months were especially challenging for Robert personally and as a result he had begun to desperately depend and recognize God in a new way. Robert was a man that God demonstrated his unfailing love to until the final moment He called him home. I believe God was working with Robert these last few months and I believe that Robert began to personally know a loving God. I believe Robert is with Jesus and for the first time Robert is embracing the abiding comfort of a merciful and faithful God who was faithful to complete what He had started in him.

I’m not a preachy kinda girl. I don’t get on a religious soapbox very often but Brenda is right. Robert accepted Christ into his life when he was 15. So it is not cliché when I say and believe that Robert is in a better place. I KNOW he is. Was he perfect? Nope. And he’d be the first to admit it. But thankfully we don’t have to be perfect, we just have to have faith in the One that makes us perfect in His time. Because of this, my kids can go to bed every night and think of their Daddy in heaven with Jesus and it helps them rest. Oh to have childlike faith again…
I was reminded of a great scripture tonight. It comes from Isaiah 30. It says, Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” I am reminded that even when I’m lost in confusion and my body is racked with exhaustion from the journey there is someone behind me that clearly sees the path and all of the obstacles and pitfalls along it. He doesn’t choose the car accident, but He sees it ahead and directs my path through it.
OK…. so it was only mildly depressing. 😉





3 Responses to “This is the way…”

  1. 1 GingerSnaps

    Not depressing at all…you are walking your journey and living your life…sometimes life is pretty, and sometimes it’s brutal. I see in your words a strong woman who is pressing through. Thank you for sharing such personal advice and most of all your heart.


    P.S. I really want to actually meet you someday.

  2. 2 Emily

    psst: I love you.

  3. 3 chaddq


    thanks for the twitter add — looking forward to your updates!

    this may not mean much from random internet/twitter guy, but you and your family are in my thoughts. i’d offer help/time/a trip to Wall-E if I lived closer, but if you can think of anything I can do from afar, just hollar.

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